Dilemma of the Day: Rough Sex or Gentle Sex?

In the world of relationships and love there is a plethora of topics which are covered from A-Z. However, the common question which persists through the conscience of many: Rough Sex Vs Gentle Sex. We all know that the media is fond of candle lit romantically induced love making, but what about the fantastical and often times drunken rough sex.

Now we’re not referring to S&M types of domination, but one shouldn’t consider rough sex as unusual since pain and pleasure can go very well hand in hand. It’s understandable and completely normal that you or your partner like being a little rough in bed sometimes… We all do. However, it is very healthy to be able to enjoy all the various facets of sex. Sex should not just be about the immediate rush and climaxes leaving everyone  involved scampering off in different directions. There is much more to be experienced both physically and emotionally than just that. Expand your horizons and explore different forms of role play. For example, rough sex doesn’t have to simply entail you jackhammering away at her for an hour. You can let her dominate on top, too. You might even get to see a hidden freak emerge from her:

On the other hand there is the issue of having a partner which is a little too timid and conservative in bed. Anything outside of the standard missionary position is beyond hedonism. It is truly a frustrating position to be put in and if this is you, we certainly sympathize. There is nothing worse than being in bed with the one you love, but still being unable to get what you truly desire. In either situation, the relationship will become problematic as these problems will transcend the bedroom and spill over into other facets of your relationship. Sure the grass is always greener on the other side, but be careful what you wish for!

Here are some preferred situations in which you can find yourself on either side of the fence:

Here are some preferred situations in which you can find yourself on either side of the fence:

Rough Sex

The only way you’re even going to get things to this level without seeming like a creep is by communicating. Unless both sides consent and urge for this rough play, you might just scare her off. Make sure your partners understand what your true desires are. Drop a hint and let her accidentally open your Macbook to some Sasha Grey clips.  Once you’ve vocalized your desires and dropped some subtle hints, take the tempo up a bit and work her into a frenzy. The goal is spontaneity, not abuse. Here are all the situations in which things may get a little nasty:

Spontaneous/Out of bedroom Sex

It’s been a long night at the theater and you and your partner have found it damn near impossible to keep your hands off each other’s laps for the duration of Jersey Boys. Only steps away from your apartment the passion erupts and you begin to peel your clothes off before you can even get out of the elevator. You surely won’t make it all the way to the bedroom. This one is going to be a little rough.

Drunken Sex

With a girlfriend you have the “I was black out drunk” sex accessible within an arm’s reach. This is your opportunity to take things to the nastier side. With all inhibitions aside you and your lover will find it much easier to explore positions and situations you would be too bashful to go for at 2:00 PM. All the Alacran and Bocaj has hit the right spot and you’re in for some no holds barred loving. Bend her over the nearest flat surface and pull her by the hair as you pleasure her beyond belief.

Make Up Sex

There is nothing more invigorating then going from utter hatred to complete passion. There’s no better way to get out this aggression than by mounting your lover like you hate them. Your hate will be expressed in your vigorous lovemaking, but it will be pleasurable as you two become immersed in passion and forget the source of your anger by the moment of climax.

Our friends at OkCupid took a survey amongst 60,000 of their users which prescribed that the older men get, the rougher sex they prefer; while the older women get the more they will loathe the biting and spanking.

Gentle Sex

The type of love made fantasy by some of Hollywood’s best writers and producers. This slow, passionate and deliberate sex is something that you may reserve for the one you actually love. Anyone can be pushed to reach an orgasm, but gentle sex makes the experience all the more “magical.” These are the sessions that culminate your love for one another. Take it slow and be passionate in your approach. Nibble on her neck and slowly, yet passionately kiss her as you caress her body during the act. She’ll love it, trust us.

Candle lit Sex

You’ve gone through extensive lengths to set the mood right. With over 50 candles lit to illuminate the darkened atmosphere you are surely on your way to a sensual romp.this would be the ideal moment to employ the aforementioned gentle sex approach.

R&B Sex

As ridiculous as it may sound, you might want to flip on the R-Kelly during your next session of foreplay. You might be surprised at how these songs may really impact the speed and quality of your love making. It will be a sweet situation, but try not to laugh (we did). We almost feel a little silly reenacting a Trey Songz video.

Chick Flick Sex

Nothing will set you up for some loving sex than watching a good chick flick. Put the Notebook on repeat, wipe the tears from her eyes and try to get her in the mood – It is sure to be a heartfelt and passionate one. For added fun take it slow and see if you can take the session over the duration of the 123 New Line Cinema classic. It’s the only way to sit through this movie twice, trust us.

An ace is an ace and sex is sex, but sex is always better when its with someone you truly love. Which do you prefer?

Elite.