Author and Matchmaker Give You the Tools to Jump-Start Summer Romance

When Gloria MacDonald, President of Perfect Partners, The Personal Relationship Executive Search Firm, and Thelma Beam, Psychotherapist and Principal of Mind Meld Consulting Inc. wrote the book Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40 they wanted to help women beat the odds and find the man of their dreams!  They have had a lot of fantastic feedback about the book and discussions always bring up even more questions about the science of attraction. 

Thelma Beam explains how attraction works. “In humans, attraction is based on pattern recognition. During our early years, a pattern is hard-wired into our brains of what turns us on. This is based on early childhood experiences with our parents. Thereafter, we are attracted to people who fit this pattern. So, for instance, if you had a father who was emotionally unavailable or distant, you might create a pattern for a man who has the same characteristics. Or if you had to compete with your sister for your father’s attention, then you might form a pattern where you had to always be in a love triangle with another woman.” And, because the pattern is actually hard-wired, it is extremely difficult to change, even when your “type” just doesn’t work for you.

People are so ingrained with their “type” that they will often seek to replace the person they have lost with another one who is similar. Beam says she’ll never forget the client who, right after his divorce, brought a date to meet his family. The woman was a dead-ringer of his ex-wife. Or the client who wanted a man with “The Look”. All of her previous boyfriends had the identical beard, hair colour and body type.

So how do you stop being attracted to the wrong type of person? “It’s a process of evolution rather than revolution”, says MacDonald. The only way to break a pattern is to consciously do something differently. Women should pick a man who does not quite conform to their “type”, and see how that goes. Try dating men with different variations until you learn what does and doesn’t make you happy. In other words, if you have always picked the wrong kind of guy, try loving with your head instead of just your heart.

This summer, Thelma and Gloria are helping women increase their odds of finding their perfect partner by offering a special deal.  With the purchase of Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40 between June 21 and September 21, 2009 customers will also receive The Mini Mind Management program (a one-of-a-kind tool kit with 11 proven and simple techniques to help you manage your Mini-Mind) and The 4 Keys to Relationship Success (a special report that will help you increase the quality of all of the relationships that you have in your life.)  You can purchase the book at www.lawsofthejungledating.com and other online retailers.  If you purchase the book on a reseller (like Amazon) just send us an e-mail at info@perfectpartners.ca with your order number and order date and we’ll send you your bonus gifts.

Gloria MacDonald is a Matchmaker, and the founder and CEO of Perfect Partners, The Personal Relationship Executive Search Firm, a dating service for 40+ professionals. She started Perfect Partners because of her own personal experience finding herself single again in her mid-40’s after 18 years of marriage. Gloria found that the world of finding single, eligible men and dating was significantly different at this stage of life. Since 2003 she has worked with hundreds of single men and women to help them through the seeming jungle of dating, and has matched over 2500 couples.

Gloria believes the desire for love and companionship is basic to our nature and fundamental to our well being. She believes that the "perfect partner" is out there for anyone who has a sincere desire to find him or her. She’s committed to helping people find that special match to share their laughter, joy, adventure and special moments with.

Thelma Beam has been a psychotherapist in private practice for 10 years. She specializes in helping men and women with relationship issues, individually and in couples counseling. Originally trained in psychoanalytic psychology, Thelma is also a certified hypnotherapist, a board certified regression therapist, and an NLP practitioner. She is a member of the International Board For Regression Therapy; The National Guild of

Hypnotists; the American Association of Professional Hypnotherapists; and

The National Federation of Neurolinguistic Psychology.

Before becoming a psychotherapist, Thelma worked for many years as a marketing research consultant. Currently, she is the principal of Mind Meld Consulting Inc., a marketing think tank which develops psychoanalytic models of consumer behavior.