Why Men Cheat

It is a very bold question that takes some serious ambition to take on, but Elite Daily feels we have the answer to this question we’re positive has entered the minds of our readers–at least at one point. This is one of the most frequently asked questions, perhaps closely tailing “Where do babies come from?”

Men cheat. It’s plain and simple. We have been cheating for countless centuries and have even pushed for polygamy in past times to legitimize our agenda. Elite feels this pervasive social problem necessitates close examination. To be frank, although you CAN cheat, it doesn’t reflect well upon you. To properly examine this social issue, we feel compelled to discuss the prehistoric roots of the urge to cheat that has been plaguing men for ages. Envision a time before our modern society.

During this time, men were the dominant gender. Arguably, considering the concentration of wealth and opportunity in our gender due to sexism, we still are. This was a time before social justice and gender equality were even a budding thought in anyone’s minds. We were the ones that went to war, worked, and hunted to provide food for the family. This unbalanced society, in combination with the ever-present dangers and distractions of the wild, created a feeling of resentment.

Commitment to a single female was blasphemy! We were the bigger and stronger ones. Our will was enforced because society was driven by power instead of a commitment to equality.

During these times, men heavily engaged in polygamy. Warlords around the globe had concubines. Medieval lords had “the right of the first night”, which boiled down to a feeling of entitlement to sleep with the wife of any serf on the first night of marriage. Cheating was power, and what better way to display your dominance than with wealth and abundance of women?

If you think about it, not much has changed today. Men had many different spouses, averaging four wives per male. Can you imagine handling four women at one time? We’re sure some of you can, but for your own sake, withhold that information in public. King Solomon was pegged as traveling to Ethiopia and having sex with 500 women. As you can see, sex was and still is power.

Fast forward to 2012. The acceptance of cheating in the past has an effect on the current generation of men. Consider that before women’s rights became mainstream–when divorce was seen as shameful–men could cheat on their wives and have them stay faithful to the marriage. This was only two generations ago. In fact, my grandfathers on both sides are guilty of cheating–multiple times. This mindset has been pervasive and was passed on from generation to generation.

Instant gratification

Men feel entitled to women due to our problematic social construction. The sexual double standard makes it seem like men are SUPPOSED to sleep with as many women as possible, and women are only capable of wanting sex in the context of love. If a woman steps outside of this boundary she is deemed a whore–something we hold as unfair, to say the least. In a society based on instant gratification, men feel entitled to the female body and wish to sleep with as many women as possible.

Sleeping with multiple women is still viewed as a marker of success in our society. Some women even fall victim to this–the allure of the bad boy every girl seems to crave. Yet, with women becoming more and more independent, the quest to retain dominance over sexual discourse is becoming difficult. You might just end up alone.

Many men in our society do not consider the long-term benefits of a relationship. We are simply looking for a quick fix at times–a girl to scratch our itch, so to speak. Thus, anything quick and short term–like an affair or a one-night stand– is seen as beneficial. We can get what we want without the wait. Instant gratification at its finest. Consider credit card usage.

The credit card is an immediate fix–allowing a man to get what he wants, when he wants, regardless of whether it is truly affordable to him. This caters to our bias towards the “now”, providing short-term pleasure regardless of consequence. Kind of sounds like cheating to me.

Mindset

Another reason why men cheat is we are immature, and the male role models we adopt reinforce this. Regardless of age, we have a sinister, narcissistic component of our mind that is oriented towards self-pleasure. Society tells us that we are entitled to what we want, when we want it. This cannot be any more untrue.

It is because of this that we will jump the bones of any willing female on a night out, regardless of relationship status. The embedded thought in our minds that we deserve sex gives some men the comfort to cheat without guilt.

Dominance

From the beginning of time, men loved to display their dominance and power. Unsurprisingly, men feel dominant if they have something over their partner. This something needs to be substantial. Something they can’t easily acquire. Frankly, something they would be furious if their partner engaged in as well. What makes a man feel like a dominant man? Cheating.

This makes them feel secure of their dominance in the relationship. If they don’t cheat, they feel weak or tamed by the female. Society says the players are to be idealized and glorified, not vilified. Thus, we aspire to be like them. We feel like something is missing in our relationships solely because of an artificial, unrealistic lifestyle we see portrayed in movies and on television.

Attractiveness

This one is pretty simple. Men have horrible ADD and can quickly grow tired of sex with the same partner. After all, we’re supposed to be players, right? Usually around the 8-month mark a man will begin to lose interest in his partner. This is when they seek to fulfill their need for instant gratification through other women.

Thinking with the wrong head

Once a man gets attracted to a new female, he loses his mind. All the blood in his brain that would be put to good use–like for common sense, integrity, and logical reasoning–gets diverted to his smaller head.  This leaves behind a useless brain and the only goal becomes pleasure. Countless men have cheated and instantly regretted it upon orgasm. We meant it when we said we just weren’t thinking.

Trust issues

If you weren’t aware, there are many extremely insecure men who have terrible trust issues. Check out Drake’s whiny ballad in his song, “Trust Issues”. Why do you think they have to confirm their manhood through sex?  They never trust females and always feel they are always out to wrong them.

Personally, we blame Eve for this. If she hadn’t gone behind Adam’s and ruined the world, maybe men wouldn’t be the way they are today! Just kidding. But, really, if a man has trust issues with his girlfriend he will cheat faster than you can count to ten.

We hope we have been able to successfully answer this question we’re sure many of you have pondered. It is a question that has been asked for millions of years.

Men will always cheat as long as you let them. Women, lock your boyfriends in a cage.

Elite Daily