Red Flags: The Rules You Need to Know

On the journey to find the girl of your dreams many things can be confusing. It is extremely hard to let your guard down if you have your doubts. Does she really love you? Are you the only one? Is this the first time she’s done these things? Through months of research, we here at Elite Daily have had the opportunity to interview men from all walks of life to get some answers.

Gentleman, the bottom line is that most of us spend half the time sugar coating the situation. When a questionable situation arises men are so quick to justify these clear signs in hopes that we may have found the best friend to spend the rest of their lives with.

We reached out to a wide range of men. From the college undergrad to the young professional on Wall Street, and from the newlywed to the man on his third marriage. Here is a comprehensive breakdown of the 12 ways men were duped into believing they found the ONE. 

12. Sex on the First Date
Let’s be completely honest with ourselves… If she was willing to get into bed without hesitating, god knows what else she has been through. No sexual protection on the first date, you should have known better.

11. Social Media
Ever wonder why she always claims to be a private person? The reason she has disabled her wall and objects to any pictures being taken together is because she has a man. All girls love attention. It’s a fact. If she operates in silence, there is definitely something she’s trying to hide. You’ve been warned!

10. “My Crazy Ex” Excuse
Text messages and calls from her ex? When confronted with these allegations, does she grab the phone out of your hand and threaten to call him right there in front of you? And of course, you stop her in mid-dial and buy into this academy award performance, right? You love her and trust her. She must have a jealous ex trying to thwart your budding romance. Get your head out of the clouds. This is the epitome of a RED FLAG.

9. Social Patterns
Has your girl ever gone missing for a few hours? Were you supposed to come over for lunch and she is nowhere to be found? And wait, let us guess… She materializes a few hours later only to claim that she was taking a nap? Unless she suffers from narcolepsy, don’t buy into it. You narrowly missed a unscheduled quickie with another. Make sure she showers.

8. The College Experience
So your high school sweetheart got into that college she’s always dreamed of… Congratulations. You take monthly trips up to her dorm, make a point to have the Skype sessions every night, and you even send her flowers once a week to make sure she remembers what she’s missing. No chance buddy. She’s taking it from others.

7. She’s So Spontaneous!!
Blowjobs in the back of taxis, on the roof, in a stair case and even in the living room of her boss’s apartment… Calm down Casanova, don’t try to make yourself feel so special. This isn’t spontaneity you’re witnessing, this is a professional in action. She’s done this before and you know it.

6. She’ll Do Anything To Prove Her Love For You
When you accuse her of any wrong doings, she will begin to swear on her mother’s grave, proceed to disable her Facebook, delete numbers out of her phone in front of you and even be willing to get those matching tattoos. No, this is not devotion, this is deception. She’s ran through this song and dance before. You got a crazy one. This is what you get for dating a theater major.

5. The Academic Acceleration
It’s the beginning of September and all of a sudden your girlfriend goes on an academic frenzy. Dinner plans are put off because she has to study at her friend’s apartment every night like she’s in the 8th grade and she can’t answer because she’s so engaged in her studies. Yea… she’s studying alright, studying another male’s anatomy.

4. Attitude Adjustment
Every man will do everything in his power to give his first love the world. Over exerting your efforts can cause a backfire in the relationship. When you’ve given her too much she may begin to think she can take it all. Has your down to earth girl transformed into a monster? She doesn’t hesitate to yell at your friends and refuses to eat anything besides Nobu. Good job, you’ve created a monster. You’ve spoiled her into feeling a sense of entitlement. This would be the time she thinks she can cheat on you. Get rid of her before it becomes any worse.

3. Mobile Defense System
She hovers around her phone incessantly. She has even installed retina scan and voice encryption to access her phone. Chances are she’s not hiding the cure to cancer on her blackberry. There is something hiding in between those keys, be advised.

2. The 3-Day Break
She went from devoting her undying love for you to contemplating whether or not you two should go on a break. Ever wonder why this change of heart only lasted for 72 hours? Sorry to break it to you, but she definitely ended up having a one night stand on girls night out. During 3 day hiatus you can rest assured that she has gone through all the phases: shame, embarrassment, remorse, and finally buying into her own excuse that “I was drunk and it will only happen once.” That might work for her, but not for us…

1. Miss Independent
One day everything is fine. You receive about 100 text messages a day from her, she clings to your arm like there is no tomorrow, and there isn’t a single detail of her day that goes by that you are not aware of. Then it happens… Out of nowhere she wants to go on girls only trips and she feels the unprovoked need to assert her independence as if it’s on her bucket list. This is the time you can rest assured you’re paying for another man’s vacation with your girlfriend.

Remember gentleman, this game is Chess not Checkers… Look for love, but do it intelligently. We’ve already seen it all before. We would hate to tell you that we told you so.

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